So the vainpot jie jie startd asking for earring holes...hmmm maybe coz her cousin Gayle had it too? So papa and I discussed and agreed she could do it. We went to the goldsmith shop at Plaza...
thought jie jie wanted shapes as Gayle's earrings were some shapes too but they were too big for her tiny ear lopes, so she settled for some yellow sparkly stone with gold rims. Oh jie jie knew value, she asked for gold rather than silver.
the man first used a red pen to mark the spots on her ear lopes...
papa told jie that she could hold on to him if she was apprehensive
tong was cheering his sis on enthusiastically, see that cute Jia you hand gesture, he made a cute little jiggly dance along with that
then another man came to help. They aimed one pistol at each hole, counted to three, jie shuddered at the jolt of pain and the deed was done.
her ears got all red and swollen. ah, the lengths that one would go to in the name of beauty
admiring herself in the mirror
papa took this shot to post on his facebook, yeh he was a social media butterfly
some other random happenings...
the two of you enjoyed a cuddle on the bus, each took turn to pretend to be asleep
before collapsing into a big heap. ha... tis had been a difficult period of time. tong was perpetually whiny and demanding, seemingly having regressed, needing mummy to carry him around the house, whimpering at the slightest challenge...jie jie had been most difficult when mama instructed her to practice on the piano. there were many tears and resistance...I tried to coax, cajole, I tried yelling and commanding...it was all very taxing
one day, xun saw this photo when we were sorting through some old stuff and she was so delighted.
jealous tong complained that he had none so we made this together. sigh...while the two of you got on very well at times, you were loggerheads on some. There was once when cantankerous tong did not want to keep his toys and mama threw henry into the recycling bin, jie jie immediately went to rescue it.
TOng's vocabulary was improving. When asked to describe Spence the engine, he used "grand". One day xun questioned me what body part I would be since papa was the head. Tong said he wanted to be rocket...HM? I replied I was the heart and she gushed she would be the brains as she wanted to be the brainy one. Ha though on another occasion, she uttered a nonsensical reply, declaring that she would be the PI GU. DUH.
While tong usually shrugged, " I don't know" when asked about what he learnt in school, he came back volunteering that he learnt about fire one day. Turned out that the teachers were preparing them for the fire drill. He told me that they needed to take the stairs, not the lift, in case they got stuck. The next day, he was reading with Ms Chan when the bell went off so shrilly that he hopped onto her laps and needed her to carry him up the stairs to go to the assembly point.
One day, ah gong drove us to school in a van as he brought the functioning motorised car back to our house. You two were exhilarated to take the van again...gushing how surprised your friends would be to see this. Childhood was a wonderful stage, no grandiose sense of self, no hankering after brands, prestige and stuff..just pure enjoyment of "being" there in the experience
So we usually played with MX as she would reach school pretty early
jie jie had picked up some bad habits from school, like saying, "I hate to..." and "I don't care"...well, we never used such words at home...so...
papa took jie downstairs for a ride on a Sunday. The hot babe in the convertible. ha...the rather cowardly tong found the car too fast and therefore declined to follow.
On another day, the two munchkins were fooling around at home, with authoritative jie barking out orders to her robot tong. ha...here, tong declared that his battery was low and he needed to charge..so..he pressed his whole face on the screen for charging
mama was reading this book by dr Shefali called " the conscious parent". very interesting, not dishing out techniques or methods on how to manipulate your children to behave the way you want...more about partnering you two as spiritual partners in this journey of knowing more about our selves, being connected to our inner being, relishing in the state of the present, and taking on life with this supreme attitude that life's ups and joys were simply random and we could face them with an unfazed couragem asking , "what is life trying to teach me here..."
most enlightening...about not projecting our dreams and fears into your lives, molding you into mini us...
about celebrating the very essence of you being you...well, it was indeed therapeutic to read the book, felt more relaxed, let go of personal agenda, took time to be fully present when we played...let you two take whatever time you needed...and you were back to the angelic selves we had before you started school...ahhhh....
oh godma's son...so chubby and cute. i bet tong would love him.
seemed like you two had accepted the idea of having another baby! oh yes, one big theme in the book was to be accepting...not in a defeatist kind of way, but in a ...hmmm..how should I put it, in a zen kind of way. yup...so...xun, knowing how competitive and probably an achiever-personality as a first born child, I hoped you would read this book when you had your own little babies. ha...in fact, today as we sat on the lush grass, just enjoying moments of being together there on such a balmy evening, you asked me what I was reading. I said a book on how to be a better mummy. You gave a quizzical look and declared you needed to read it as well, ha coz you wanted to be a good mummy. Then tong gushed how he wanted to marry me. oh well...ha...
love you to bits, little cutie pies, goochy goochy babies.
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