Mama wrote this on FB to encourage Er Yi who needed some comfort at this tremendous changing point of her life...phew, the two of you could finally play independently for short periods of time...just today, mama was so worn out after taking the two of you to watch Barbie Mariposa, i laid on the bed and the two of you kept coming in to ask for things and stuff. I said I was really tired and needed a little nap...so the two of you watched tv, Xun brought toys out for tong tong to play (you told me tong was hungry and you gave him an orange and juice. I was alarmed. Turned out that you took the wooden toys and pretended to have a picnic at the living room, ha.)...so mama did catch 40 winks...
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They will only be small for a little while
My sister just has her first child and I reflect on my motherhood journey thus far as i hold the little precious bundle in my arms. Well, I m no longer the anxious and paranoid greenhorn who wanted to abandon the whinging and incessantly demanding brats at the shopping centre. My heart swells with affection as I espy Xun and tong playing peek a boo and speaking gibberish to each other at one corner. Love is so inexplicable, how can one love so deeply, so greatly, so achingly and so tenderly?
To my beloved sisters and friends who will be embarking on this great journey...
That if he keeps doing those very things that you explicitly disallow, it's not coz he is defiant. He is curious about this amazing world and he is secure in the knowledge that u ll rescue him from every situation.
That if he demands incessantly and breathes down ur neck, it is becoz u r his sole lifeline and he thinks the world of you and can't bear for you to be out of his sight.
That when he has an epic meltdown, it does not reflect on your parenting skills or it means he has a tyrannic temperament, he is simply having his needs unmet at that moment.
That he will not be small for very long. Once, xun needed my hand to be on her body so she could go to zzz but now she will push my hands away when I snuggle next to her saying that it makes her feel uncomfortable.
That now xun says she wants to be with me forever but one day she may rant at me that she hates me and wishes I will stop interfering in her life.
That he needs your help in everything, your life revolves ard him now, leaving no breathing space and personal time and no time to sleep but one day he will be independent and u wish u can do all those things for him just so he will linger longer in your presence.
Motherhood is not easy, don't expect it to be, like our mummy says sagaciously, if it is easy, everyone ll be having more kids. But its rewards are great. The heady sensation u get when u Savor the fragrance of their hair. The joy that fills u when u look into their eyes and witness their wonder when they are amazed by things we take for granted, like the little black birds, the pretty bed sheets, the surprise presents, the bowl of favorite noodles. The awed feeling that overwhelms u that u are entrusted with this mammoth task of loving, teaching and guiding them...
The days are long but the years are short. They will only be little for a little while. Enjoy them, enjoy motherhood, enjoy the journey.
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