We found a new restaurant just a stone's throw away from our house! It was just at the Chinese Association building, next to Prince Nursery. A new restaurant, exuding American eatery vibes..the decor...the menu...ooo it was as if we were back in Oklahoma.
The place was really breezy, you two relished the cream spaghetti! It was from this experience that caused mama and papa to order cream spaghetti everytime we go to a pasta place. We found out the two of you loved this dish! The food was delectable, in HUGE american portions, not too salty and nicely flavoured. We would definitely make this one of our haunts. It was not tooooo cheap...but not too pricey too...it would suffice as a once in a while treat.
You two were so comfortable that you fell asleep at the table after the meal. Faint.
On a normal day...waking up to play with his favourite box of cars and trains, given by Auntie Shirley...
Or coming up with weird happenings like an off shoulder top...
or making a trip to our favourite free playground. It was at blk 604...we called it the castle playground... mama liked it as we could sit in the shelter under the structure if it was too hot, this meant we could go there even in the afternoon and not get sunburnt...
there was plenty to do, climb the rocky steps, slide down the two slides, run across the bridge, hide in your "home", play at the "ice cream parlour"...ha...we made up games too, like gathering leaves to decorate the sofa (pink bench) in your house...
tong still went down the slide on his belly till now...old habits died hard...
Very pleasant and quiet place...
I presumed there should have been a stream? A pity it was all dried up...
The rocky steps...
The bridge...a shot against the towering HDB flats in the background...
I knew for sure we would come up many times...often, when we cuddled in bed, you would ask what we gonna do the next day...one night you told me to think about it overnight and let you know the next day. Ha...you imitated me, as I had previously told you I would think about it and let you know tomorrow...
Xun...you were growing up so quickly...I browsed the older photos and could not believe how much you have changed...there was one night when you fell aslp in papa's car and did not do your tv-storybook routine. You woke up in the middle of the night and started sobbing. mama was sick and tired and wanted to give you a good spanking...BRRRRR...papa even allowed you to watch a show on ipad and you still sobbed after that. So...with much restraint, I talked...instead of throwing a tantrum with you...we talked about how you did not like to skip routines (yup you were anal), that you made bad choices in the day (you chose not to nap) and there were consequences. I encouraged you to make better choices then...you sobbed a little more quietly now...then I said it was alright to make mistakes...mama made mistakes all the time, we just had to keep trying and know God loves us even when we do naughty things or make mistakes...i admitted how i wanted to spank you but Jesus gave me the strength to talk instead...I soothed your insecurities, the deepest fears of making mistakes..you were such a perfectionist...you were so scared of making mistakes and changes...
It was a great heart-to-heart talk...we cuddled...you breathed a little more easily and settled down into a cosy sleep...and for the weeks to come, whenever you wanted to skip naps at ah ma's house, I reminded you of the choices you had and how you had to be responsible for the results...yeh...so you grew up a little bit more...you matured a weeny bit...I whole-heartedly believe in the RIE approach of respecting the two of you as competent individuals...and how connection would help us resolve many many issues...that a behavioral problem was first a call for HELP to manage your feelings...
I foresee you would grow up to be a Jesus girl with great wisdom...you would make me proud...
I love you little sweethearts..thank you Jesus...
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