Sunday, September 8, 2013

Parenting tots : Why I did not send you to preschool earlier...

I wrote this in my Facebook in March 2013. Well....I wanted to put this in this blog so you would understand my rationale then...I wondered if you would know what facebook was in your generation... ha...



Why r u not sending Xun to sch yet?

Often, people ask me y I m not sending 3 year old xun to sch yet. In fact, I recently joined a Bukit Panjang mummies with preschooler children Facebook group and befriend lotsa mummies with lit ones (wanyuan finds it hilarious for some Weird reason). It's liberating to find support and solace with mums who live nearby! We make plans to have play dates tog. However, it's also awfully distressing when they talk abt the kinds of activities, enrichment classes, books and what's not they do with their kids. Well, that kind of explains y I suddenly have e impetus to hunt for a kindy for xun xun.

                                          

Erm... Somewhat I have an instinctive feeling that I just want to keep her with me till she is older.i always feel pressured to justify why I don't send her to sch.i use wanyuan and a close friend as my sounding boards. Erm she is very sticky to me, she explicitly says she is afraid of being alone in school. Esp, logistically it is really troublesome. Now that tong can walk and play, we haf lotsa fun going out tog! There was one day we went to the indoor playgrd in the am, napped tog in the pm, splashed at the water park at lot 1 shopping mall and even found time to visit the library in e evening! if xun is in sch, I can't bring tong out to v far places to play n she ll miss out on e fun. Wy and my friend find my explanation rather odd."so ur keeping her fr sch because of logistics inconvenience?"

So I dwell deeper. Dwell deeper to explain my instinctive decision.

                                   

I grew up in a rather poor family. My mum craved for otah when she was expecting my 3rd sis and she did not indulge herself. Recently, I found out she never took epidural for all 4 births coz she could not bear to spend e $. And we nev got to watch tv (I tot she was so advanced that she knew it was bad for kids) coz she wanted to save electricity. But companionship (e best gift she has given me is my 3 sisters) love (albeit old sch tough love) and laughter are aplenty in the hse. She models truth, sacrifice and responsibility to me. She contributes a large part to whom I am tdy.

                                         
So why do I want to keep Xun with me for a lit longer? Coz i know she wun b little for v long, there will come a day i ll miss e sound of her pattering lit feet and incessant questioning. coz I don't think Xun needs more academic knowledge but she needs to know my unconditional love. Coz i want to be there at the teachable moments and let her know that i love her even when she makes mistakes. coz i love her smell and the way her eyes light up when she is up to no good. Coz I want to be to her what my mum has been to me.

                                          

And of coz, coz we r gonna haf lotsa fun painting e town red tog with tong tong. So... One more yr, then off to kindy, coz e government says so 

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